The Beautiful Journey of Marriage

Marriage is such a big deal in so many ways! Some might think of it as the greatest joy in life, while others look at it as a life sentence. Tonight, I am watching the final episode of the Bachelor. Please don’t judge me, I have no answers for why I am so engaged in this drama, but I am. I do question however, how two people, after only dating for two months can make the forever commitment to each other?

In the beginning, everyone truly believes it will be their ‘happily-ever-after’, dreaming of an eternity of love, roses and merry sunshine. However, as we all know, sometimes life can get turned upside down and inside out. Happily ever after is just not in the cards. I truly believe that the secret to a good marriage is; a big dash of chemistry, a pinch and splash of kindness, lots of respect – a whole lot of commitment and daily work.
Becoming vulnerable, offering someone your whole heart can be very scary business. My parents are celebrating their 50th anniversary this year. They have had their up and downs, but they come for a generation that believes, “if something is broken, you fix it, you don’t throw it into trash.” In today’s society we are so used to instant results and constant stimulation, we need immediate gratification. When we don’t get it, we are quick to hit the eject button, instead of nurturing, watering, pulling the weeds, taking care of our special flower. When we do nurture it daily, the flower grows tall, strong and can weather any storm.
Sometimes, we can get fixated, on the negative 20% in the relationship, tending to forget the 80% that is oh, so very good. It can be easy to forget, what attracted you to your partner in the first place. We must remind ourselves to be kinder to each other, going out of our way to show our appreciation to our better half.
I think a great marriage can be the best thing ever. I love being married and would feel lost without my husband. If you have more good days than bad, you laugh a lot together, you honestly think your spouse is smart cookie, you have a deep respect for each other, then you know you’re on the path to your happily ever after.
As the years pass and beauty starts to fade, it really is about two souls that find each other intellectually stimulating, funny, someone you can really count on, that is loyal to you. If you can weather sickness, growing pains, lack of money, teenagers, different cultures, families; the list can go on and on. You know you can do anything you set your mind to, as two can is far easier than one can.
I hope as your reading this you stop and remember why you fell in love with your sweetheart. If you happen to be having a rough patch, hunker down, do more weed pulling, watering, pampering your special flower. I promise you it will bloom again. All you need to do is give it tender loving care, every day, sit back and watch the beauty come to life.
Homework: Plan an unbelievable surprise date for your love. Pull out all the bells and whistles, show them with action instead of words, how much you love them and how important they are to you. You will never regret it.

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Happy Heart Lifestyle Coach
Rhonda Zarate is a Happy Heart Lifestyle Advisor. Her favorite thing to do is help people find their happiest hearts through Coaching. Vlogging, Boutique Real Estate & she authored a book Find Your Happy Planner.
Sharing her love for the happy path and her family makes her heart the happiest, being part of a Heart Tribe is one’s greatest JOY.


  1. I guess this is not the right time to remind people that many other animals mate for life …. of course they do not have supermarkets, doctors, starbucks. cars and fancy houses. Life for them, literally depends on their covering each others back in living and raising a family.

    People in the olden times, where many of these above mentioned conveniences were not available, the work was so hard, that a husband might go through a number of wives in having and raising a family.

    Today it is different. A husband and wife may each go through several marriages, and children may be raised by a stepmother or stepfather, and the children live with half brothers and half sisters. Many children wind up with no mothers and fathers. Which situation would you prefer to live with?

    Today’s age is one that folks have human rights, whether it be to having water, healthcare, a home, and parents.

    The responsibility to having many of these rights depends on marriage, and selection the right person to marry. I have found , if you believe it, it is best to pick out a marriage partner that you have lived with in a prior life. Loretta has told me that we have lived in two prior lives together.

    See, my selection in this life was an easy matter, for it was pre-ordained. We have been together in this life for over 67 years. Married going on 61 years. See , no problem here. We know each other so well that , basically , we know what each other is thinking. This is convenient when I go shopping alone. I know instinctively what she is thinking that she did not put on the shopping list.

    Even if she doesn’t think of something, I know what to get her. We have covered each others backs well all of these years. We are unlike people, she a night person, and I a day person. Our skills are different and our education subjects are mostly different. What I may not know, she often does. And the opposite is true.

    I would not know what to do without her, and she me. Well perhaps not when it comes to the remote. I cannot stand some of her favorite TV programs , and she mine. So I listen to the radio a lot, and she the TV. We have separate computers, so it is not a problem . And finally, I make the money, and she mostly spends it.

    See, we have worked things out to her satisfaction. A husband does not get along well with an angry wife.

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